THEY WON'T UNDERSTAND
Updated: Oct 21, 2020
AND THAT'S JUST FINE.
We'l keep this one short and sweet since we already covered this on Monday (if you missed it, here it is). When it comes to our journey, it ultimately is ours and ours alone to enjoy, endure, and accomplish. Along the way, we're going to encounter folks who don't understand our conviction. "Why are you always doing *insert our chosen activity leading us closer to our goal*? Don't you do anything else? You're obsessed." Maybe they're right. Maybe we are obsessed.
Here's why it's okay for others to not understand our end game and even better, how to find people who are on board.
"I want to be a professional unicorn rider."
"...we've all judged what someone else wants out of their lives but ultimately, it is their life to live, not ours. If they want to be a rodeo clown because it brings them joy, we have no right to ridicule them."
Sounds ridiculous right? If someone came up to us and said that, we'd be baffled. Maybe someone we know has confided in us and explained their dream and it seems so absurd we can't imagine why anyone would want that for themselves. Hopefully it's not as crazy as wanting to ride a mythical creature for a living because it seems pretty challenging to find such an animal in the first place and how would that generate any money for paying bills..? Anyways, let's get back on track. At one point in time, we've all judged what someone else wants out of their lives but ultimately, it is their life to live, not ours. If they want to be a rodeo clown because it brings them joy, we have no right to ridicule them. But we do have the right to make the following decision. Do we beat down on their dreams or assist in the attainment of it?
You're either in the way or you're on the way.
"Sadly, the third level we'll encounter most frequent; those who don't care about us or our dreams. They don't get it. They don't want to help. And that's okay."
We've shared this quote before, "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together" and it couldn't be more applicable to this topic. When we share our hopes and dreams with others, we're going to need some help along the way and it sure as shit is useful if those we need help from are on board with our journey. Now there are 3 levels of help we're going to get from others. The first would be best case scenario. We unveil our grand scheme and explain why it's important to us. On the receiving end, our counterpart can see the purpose it gives us and in turn want to assist. They're empathic and understand the vision. This is rare and the second level we'll more often encounter. Upon spilling our guts to someone about our grandiose pipe dreams, they fail to understand what it has to do with anything but out of the sheer love they have, they decide to stick with us in the long haul, offering occasional help here and there when needed. Sadly, the third level we'll encounter most frequent; those who don't care about us or our dreams. They don't get it. They don't want to help. And that's okay. These are the folks who are in our way. They bog us down. They distract us. They're the ones calling us obsessed rather than dedicated. The folks who get it and those who might not fully understand but love us too much to sit idle, these are the ones who are on the journey with us. So how do we know who is who?
When we're at our worst, who is around?
There's a lot of vulnerability in sharing our inner most desire for our lives. It takes guts to share that with the world. But maybe we shouldn't share it with the world, at least until we've made it (we'll come back around to this). When we're at the lowest of lows, those who consistently check in with us to make sure we'll alright, those are the ones who more than likely are going to keep us on track with our goals. They care enough about us to not want anything since we might not have anything to give at the time. They understand. They're here to help. Those who we only see when things are going great or they need something, those are the ones who will get in our way, be road blocks, distractions. They want a piece of the pie but don't want to help bake. We should share our dreams with those closest to us and who are most trustworthy, not all willy-nilly. When we get drained, people can drain us further and that's not conducive to making it (we've now come back around). When we're on our way, not at the lowest of lows, this is when we can start to branch out and share our goals more and more. Once we've solidified our path a little and have enlisted trustworthy help. Our support system.
So, no summary today to cap off this post. Only two questions. Who is your support system? Are you sure?